Two weeks before I gave birth to my son, I wrote a blog about how terrified I was to have a boy. It was mostly because I was terrified about how to take care of a teeny-weeny penis. So, yes, I was scared.
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Alys Gagnon March 08, An expert shares her top tips for stopping inappropriate touching in a positive way. It's a question many, many mums and dads have to grapple with at some point in their career as parents, but the fact that most of us are searching for answers doesn't make it any less awkward. These are not their real names - Adele asked us to use pseudonyms to protect her son's privacy. That situation? If you haven't already guessed it, Lucas seems to have gotten into the habit of sneaking his hand down his trousers in less than appropriate situations. Adele is a pretty open-minded mum. She wants Lucas to grow up with a healthy sense of his own sexuality and to never, ever experience the guilt and shame that many people of her generation felt about sex and their bodies as teenagers and young adults.
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Think about how you like to relax at home. Many men naturally reach for their junk both in private and in public without batting an eye. This includes fully submerging your hands in your underwear, occasionally reaching down to adjust your package, or even just playing a little pocket pool. Lodging your hands between your precious jewels and the potential hazards of the outside world makes you feel comfortable and safe, says Vanessa Van Edwards, author of Human Lie Detection and Body Language Your Guide to Reading People's Nonverbal Behavior. Maybe this explains why Major League Baseball players are constantly readjusting their junk at the plate. About to make a big pitch or close a deal? Rubbing your stomach or other body parts in a non-erotic way triggers the release of oxytocin, a calming hormone, according to a study in the journal Frontiers in Psychology. That may be why touching your junk can be soothing. But since massaging your groin in a board room could get you fired, Van Edwards often tells nervous public speakers to stroke or touch their arms or the backs of their necks to reduce anxiety. Telling other guys to back off by pointing to your junk helps you mark your territory, he says.
According to a study in the journal Frontiers in Psychology, when men touch or rub his stomach or body parts in a non-erotic way, it can trigger a release of oxytocin — the stress calming nerve — in his body. According to Rob Kominiarek, founder of the Alpha Male Medical Institute, men who put their hands down their trousers or touch their southern areas in a work environment feel threatened and use the action to signal their dominance. This is most common when the male is feeling insignificant or slighted by another male colleague.